While driving home from work last month, I was listening to the radio and heard an advertisement for a local television station’s five o’clock news program. Breathlessly a reporter announced that multivitamins may increase the incidence of prostate cancer; the news would have details at five.
As a user of multivitamins, I was a little alarmed. In truth I was a more amused than alarmed. I was not amused because I dismiss cancer warnings with a perfunctory “what doesn’t cause cancer” statement. I don’t. But I also believe our understanding of what causes cancer is very primitive. There is probably too much emphasis on genes, on the environment, and on other factors beyond our control. There is too little emphasis on factors that are under our control, such as our diet and other choices we make daily.
There is one thing I am certain that doesn’t cause cancer. That one thing is Love. Now I don’t mean the love that we are most familiar with. That love is conditional; you do this for me and I’ll do this for you. I’ll love you if I get something I want from you. Couples frequently have very complex deals; and when the deal is broken, they separate. They say they fell out of love. The truth may be they never Loved.
When we truly Love, we behave in a Loving way, not because someone else deserves it and not to preserve a deal we made. Instead, we Love because we choose to allow what Thomas Hora calls the ocean of Love-Intelligence to flow through us.
We did not create the ocean of Love-Intelligence, but we are part of the ocean of Love- Intelligence; it is our natural inheritance. It flows through us automatically, except when we block its flow. How do we block its flow? We block its flow by being caught up in our ego’s thoughts.
In our minds, there are certain universal themes that our ego plays over and over. Many of these themes involve struggling against what is. Why is the traffic so slow today? Why are these drivers such idiots? Why are the people in this town so rude? Why does the checkout clerk work so slowly? Why aren’t my children doing better in school? Why doesn’t my boss appreciate me more? Why don’t my employees take more initiative? Why doesn’t my spouse do more household chores?
The outcome of all these universal ego themes is the same—we feel separated from the people we are judging. Our ego counsels us: we are innocent and they are guilty. Those people are victimizing us, proclaims the ego. In truth, we are all being victimized by our dysfunctional thinking.
Each time we create a story around who is to blame, we squeeze the flow a little more. We rehearse the stories and seek witnesses to our stories. When we are in the grip of our stories, we want to be right. We want to be innocent. Since our stories further constrict us, we pay a high price for being right.
As we struggle with what is, as we judge our life in this moment, we block the ocean of Love-Intelligence from flowing through us. We may go through the motions of doing loving things, but we are not fooling anybody. We are not Loving.
The antidote to blocking Love is pure awareness. Pure awareness is free of judgment. When we can look at our thinking with honesty, which means without judgment or justification, we began the process of releasing our constrictions which squeeze the flow of Love to a trickle.
If everyone is part of this ocean of Love-Intelligence, constricting its flow must affect our happiness and health. And although there are no guarantees, if we are constricting Love, allowing more Love to flow through us may improve our health. We can be sure of one thing—allowing Love to flow through us is the one thing that does not cause cancer.